For the first time in six years, I have to deal with the loneliness of having my child, our only son, go away in an out-of-town trip without me or my husband on board.
You can say I was not just reluctant, I totally disagree with the idea. My baby would be going to Baguio for a few days along with his tita, titos and cousins. Not that I do not trust the family of my husband, I simply hated the idea tha the would be away from my side for some days which for me is unbearable.
I had to agree though for two reasons. First, because my son really wanted to go and his excitement of going to Baguio was overwhelming. Second, because I had to show my husband that I trust his family in taking care of my baby. It was one of the hardest decision I had to make though as a parent. The first night that he was away, I cried while praying for his safety. I also cried the day after that and the day after that. In short, I cried the nights away because of his absence. I was like a homesick mommy.
Calling him every day (the most twice in a day because I had to control myself not calling every minute so as not to pester him and his companions) became my therapy. I even joked about the situation thinking my son had an early independence from his parents. It makes me happy to know his enjoying the trip but hurts me that his actually having fun even without his momma by his side.
Parenting is making decisions for our child. In the process, we learn some truths about being a parent that may either make us happy or hurt us. All the parents around the world experienced what I am facing right now, loneliness from the absence of a child, no matter how temporary it is. This reality is a natural phenomenon that every mother would face. It’s just too soon that I experienced this but the impact of the reality was very striking. I can just imagine how painful it would be to have your son actually go away for an overseas employment or to marry someone and live somewhere else.
As a parent too, we have to learn how to be tough in order for us to be good parents. That even though we wanted to shelter our child, we also need to learn to allow them spread their wings and fly because not letting them to do so will hamper their development. Much as we wanted to protect them from the world, they should not grow up vulnerable and fragile because they won’t be able to face the challenges of life that way.
Indeed, parenting is not an easy task. But if you allow the learning to seep in and try adjusting from singlehood to parenthood, you will blossom into another person, your maturity will define the woman in you. A blessing for someone who chose to live for another. Mothers are really admirable. To every mother out there, Happy Mother’s Day to Us All! 
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